Welcome. You have a vantage point that many of us born in's do not. Don't let her do this to your kids. You said at the beginning of the thread how your wife was DF'ed when you met her and you saw her guilt and despair. Can you imagine your poor children going through this in a couple of years? I am a rational adult and have done nothing but think about my departure for about a year now and I had guilt feelings and a sleepless night because of the memorial. However my younger kids (born in) didn't even notice and hopefully yours won't either, if you don't let them get too entrenched. Keep reading on this forum how different spouses have taken various approaches to getting out, hopefully you can make some changes in the way she thinks. Read Steve Hassan's books and Crisis of Conscience. Best of luck to you, hope to hear more. NMKA
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Surrounded 24/7
by Skip it ini was not associated with this "organization" until the age of about 19 when i was dating my current wife.
she was df'ed for the 1st couple of a years that we were together and thats when my intense resentment started.
i gave in to her bs after hearing the overwhelming fear from her about the generation that was about to end and how she had to get reinstated because she is just the happiest person when she's a witness.
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My story in the Monticello Times
by Shepherd Book ini took the advice of some here and "went to the press".
here's the resulting article: http://www.monticellotimes.com/articles/2009/04/09/community/879zimmerman.txt.
i think it turned out rather well..
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Great article. I think I heard your phone conversations on you tube, you handled yourself really well. Isn't it funny what gets you finally thinking, like the flood story or having a precious baby of your own. I can relate I hope your Owen has many more happy birthdays, good job mom and dad.
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hate the memorial meeting tonight
by slimboyfat ini have to go to the memorial tonight but i hate it.
i feel so bad today.
i feek sick all the time and i nearly fainted this morning.
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My family is already not very happy with me, I don't see how going tonight is going to help. They will just want more. If I go, to me, it says "I can't hack it as a witness but I am going to at least do this. It leaves me open for all of their superior judgments.
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Long time lurker, 1st time poster
by Mattieu inwell where do i start, perhaps will go into more detail later, though briefly - 40 years young, raised in the truth (kingdom baby, which meant i was never going to make it to primary/secondary school/work/get married/have kids....) former ms, regular pioneer, learnt 3 foreign languages, served in foreign language group, married (wife still goes to meetings), beautiful kids, baptised at 15 years of age, regular pioneer at 15, grew up in divided house.. .
hmmm, will go into my issues with all things organisational later, though firstly want to apologise, for being a self righteous spiritual pratt who did things by the book and sat with other elders/mss and prejudged others for not doing enough and having a wrong attitude about all matters spiritual and organisational.
i stepped down as an ms over a year ago (they were grooming me to be an elder), havent been to a meeting in 3 months, i knew it wasnt the truth for a number of years and have struggled badly the last few years.
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Welcome Mattieu! Hope you can get wife and kids out soon, so that they too can have a normal life.
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Did you feel "Stoopid" when going out in service?
by Quirky1 inman, i always felt like a complete idiot!!
dressing up in a suit riding around with a carload of other "stoopid" people speaking "stoopid" shit!
wtf was i thinking??
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Yes, especially in extreme weather or with a small child. Special brand of stoopid.
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What is Divorce like for a Baptised JW
by survived75 incould you please tell me just what happens at the congregation level when a baptised brother gets divorced?.
does he just go ahead and do it legally or must he let the elders know?
the situation i am wondering about is a fellow who was separated from his non jw wife for several years after she quit attending the kh.
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I would say most JW's would seek the advice of the elders before they obtain a divorce.The elders would probably encourage them to stay married unless there are scriptural grounds like financial or spiritual abandonment, but you would only be able to re marry if there was adultery.
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Top 10 Memorial Excuses
by rebel8 ingood excuses.
pinkeye.
(highly contagious, and you aren't supposed to touch other people's dishes and glasses.)tuberculosis.
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spilkis in my ganecktazoit. Very debilitating.
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My Wife Is Coming Home!!
by Yizuman inwell, it's been 11 months since the whole thing started and i am ecstatic that she will finally be coming home.. .
it's somewhere between 2 weeks to a month before she comes home.. .
so first thing we need some stuff..... .
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Wow you have so much on your plate, but it sound like you have thought of everything. Hope all goes well.
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Congregation Bible Study Comments - Week Commencing 6 April 2009
by LUKEWARM in" (1 corinthians 5:11-13).
(a) why is the disfellowshipping arrangement a loving one?
20 the disfellowshipping arrangement is really a loving provision from jehovah.
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I guess there is nothing new under the sun, so glad I am not there to endure it. What a great lesson on embracing every back stabbing a-hole and shunning your relatives.
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It's still fun to call people who have ridiculous stuff for sale in the paper and yank their chain a little.